A college admissions pro whose experience spans from sea to shining sea: Columbia, Berkeley, BU, Michigan State, Northeastern, to Touro today. We cover Elvin Freytes’ biggest pet peeves and honest opinions on how parents should handle the college app process. Plus, he dispels some of the most misleading college admissions myths out there. Catch up from part one.
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SocratesPost: Wow. That’s huge. What do you say to parents who are very nervous about their kids’ college admissions process and the results?
Elvin at Touro: This is rule number one: You have to have those schools that you’re shooting for and certain schools that you know you can get into. You have to definitely diversify. It’s a numbers game.
SocratesPost: What do you mean by a numbers game?
Elvin at Touro: Make sure you diversify, just like when you apply for a job. You’re not going to apply to just that one job. It’s a numbers game; you have to apply to a bunch of different jobs. Hopefully, you get into one of the schools, one of the jobs.
SocratesPost: Why is that important?
Elvin at Touro: If it’s Harvard or MIT, you’re going to have amazing faculty and research and different resources because of the funding they have and the type of folks they have. But also, even if you go to a community college, you have to go in and you have to take control. And when the student has to go in and has to take control, they have to think of what they can do. Those students who went to the for-profit, they went in there and they busted their butts and they took advantage. And now they’ve transferred to a better school. And now they’re talking about grad school. Because that’s inside. That’s the fire that burns inside them. They figured it out. Sure, it’s nerve wracking, and you’re not sure if you’re going to get accepted to your top schools. It’s going to be life-changing. But it’s still worth the investment, no matter where you go. Even if you end up going to a school you don’t want to that wasn’t your top choice, you’ve got to go in there and make it the best you can. You’ve got to network; you’ve got to use the resources.
SocratesPost: Why do you believe students will be fine wherever they end up?
Elvin at Touro: Colleges can have great faculty, no matter where you go. It’s amazing, even at the for-profit school that I went to, some of the faculty was just phenomenal; they do so much in their field. But the students didn’t take advantage of that.
SocratesPost: What didn’t they do that they should have done?
Elvin at Touro: They don’t sit down with them, go to their office hours, pick their brains, get to know them, learn about the research they’ve done; what are their interests? I always say that, too, when students are applying: “Make sure you get to know the faculty there. What are their interests? Talk about what research they’ve done; what talks have they given? Make sure you follow them on social media. Let them know how much you love their work; learn about them.” It all depends on the student and the family and the type of mindset they come in with.
SocratesPost: Okay, so to sum up, what would you add when you talk to parents who are stressed about their kids’ college apps?
Elvin at Touro: I tell those parents, “Relax. There’s always a brighter side.” Even if their kids don’t get in, that’s okay, they’ll go somewhere else. And if they don’t go somewhere else, then they’ll figure out a different path, and there’s so many different paths now, which is fantastic. It’s ultimately what they want to do. How do they be happy? By finding something they’re passionate about. Surrounding themselves with people who love them, good people who like them and friends and family–that fantastic support system that helps them progress as a professional and as a person. That’s ultimately what we want, right? Getting into a good school and a top school, that’s great, that’s fantastic. If that happens, that’s good. But that’s not the end of the world. That’s not even close to the end of the world. That’s just like little bumps in the road. Little tiny bumps in the road.
SocratesPost: What if applicants and parents see not getting into their dream colleges as failure?
Elvin at Touro: There’s so much more road to go. It’s a long game. When you’re young, you don’t think about that. But it’s a long game.
SocratesPost: Can you give us an example?
Elvin at Touro: I have a four-year-old daughter. I’m teaching her how to learn how to fail. There is no eighth place participation trophy. There are winners and losers; that’s part of life. And that’s okay. When you lose, how are you going rebound? You learn from the lesson, you figure out how to get better, and you try it again. I think as parents, we have to do that; we have to teach these kids.
SocratesPost: What’s the result of talking to your kids in that way?
Elvin at Touro: That way, when they get to the point where they’re waiting for the results, they’re going to be confident, and think: “I know that no matter what happens, I’m going to be able to take the bad news and move forward. I’m prepared mentally; I’m ready psychologically. I’ve been prepared; my parents taught me that sometimes you fail. I know how to fail and improve and have a plan B, Plan C, or plan D. I’m ready to go.
SocratesPost: That’s empowering. There are many misunderstandings about how college admissions work. What is one that you want to dispel?
SocratesPost: So does that include name-dropping on the application?
SocratesPost: What advice do you have for those who are planning for college?
…you’ve got to have a life outside of education, and you’ve got to figure out what you are passionate about. It could be anything. It could be like…
SocratesPost: What are other impressive examples of passion you’ve seen?
SocratesPost: How do kids at such a young age — 16 or 17 — discover their passion? That’s pretty daunting, especially when many adults don’t even have their passions figured out.
SocratesPost: What if high schoolers have passions that they believe colleges won’t be impressed by?
Find those people, create that community, make that community, and figure out how you can use that network and … that passion to help other people… that, to me, is number one for everyone who’s thinking about applying…
SocratesPost: How can parents help their kids find passions?
SocratesPost: Thinking about your job today in admissions, what are your biggest challenges?
SocratesPost: What about your job are you excited for?
SocratesPost: That’s a fresh perspective of the higher ed industry from someone who works in it. Let’s give our applicants a practical tip. What is the one thing students should not do when they talk to an admissions representative?
SocratesPost: Good one. What is one more thing students should never do around admissions folks?
SocratesPost: Thank you so much for your time and insights today, Elvin.